People warned me it would happen. I just didn't believe them. I firmly believed things couldn't be changed, it was the natural order of our family. Then, one day not long ago, as I did the simple task of making our grocery list, it flashed in front of me: our middle child, the child who gave me gray hair, was now our easiest child.
Let me give you some back story. Our middle child was born with a glint in his eyes and a get up and go kind of attitude. He reminded me very much of my Grandma Ann, who was known for her early rising (supposedly from being raised on our farm) and singing "Good morning to you!" long before the rest of the world was awake. That was our Harrison to a tee. As soon as his eyes open for the day, he's up and ready to take on the world (and win it). He's been this way since the day he was came into this world with a scream.
As a baby he was happy and difficult. He never slept, never allowed me to get anything done, and never wanted to be away from me. He crawled at 4 months old, climbed anything and everything by 6 months, was in a toddler bed at a year old because he climbed out of his crib and played at all hours of the day and night. He walked out our front door into the street within seconds at 18 months and nearly left the house one night at 2 a.m. because he didn't want to sleep (lucky, I just had his baby sister and had fallen asleep on the couch so he was caught before he successfully escaped). He got caught on a fence, tried to ride a tricycle and roller skates down the slide, chipped his front teeth right in front of us and we didn't realize it until hours later all before he was two. He dialed 911 (twice) and got his picture with a police officer. He's the kid that says "just watch" or "I have a surprise" and your first thought is "oh shit" and your pulse instantly quickens. He's not the one that makes the trouble, it just seems to find him. Every day of his life.
On this particular day, I was making our weekly menu and grocery list for the store. I asked the other family members if there was anything they'd like to add to the list, anything they needed or wanted. Three of them piped up with demands for crackers, cookies, origami paper, new shoes with heels, gloves, lotion, a new shirt from Old Navy, etc. I rolled my eyes and added a few of the needed items to the list. I turned to the middle mini and asked if he had any requests.
"No mommy, your list sounds just fine to me!" he replied, kissing me on my cheek. The only person in our family of five to say so.
I smiled at him and reminded him to unload the dishwasher. There was an exaggerated groan, but he did it without being asked twice. I realized then, as I looked at a suddenly big eight year old before me, how low maintenance he had become. My child that I once spent all of my time with (literally, every minute or every day until I broke), who I had to watch like a hawk, who I spent all of my time worrying about was an independent, happy, loving, and now easy going kid.
I then tried to pin point when it had happened. It surely didn't happen overnight, as I realized he has been this way for a while now. It happened just as these things do, gradually, quietly, without ever letting on a change was happening. The tantrums, outbursts, and craziness had gone away and I didn't even enjoy it while it happened! I'm fairly certain that should have been my reward for the last eight(ish) years. But alas, it was missed. Will he always be low maintenance now? I wondered, as I keep in the back of my mind that the preteen years are coming up.
How did I miss this clear change happening? The kid isn't without drama, I assured myself of that. He's still the same greet-the-day-ready-to-go kid who was out the door and covered in mud before 8 a.m. every day this past summer. I'm certain he'll always carry the knack to keep me on my toes. In many ways he's still the same boy he's always been. But there's a maturity that has come over him, but he'll still laugh hysterically at the word fart, so there's that.
I really didn't think this "event" would ever hit our house. I'm a tad crabby I missed out on that glorious change because it would have been celebrated (maybe I could give back some of the gray hairs he gave me. I'm totally good making a ceremony out of it). Instead, I'll sit back and enjoy this blissfulness now, before the preteen and teen years head our way. I'll probably be up late worrying once again and my hair grayer all from my former most difficult child.
After our first cold weekend of the season, it got me looking ahead to winter in Iowa. There's no denying that most Iowa winters are spent indoors (which is why we look so forward to spring time). Luckily, we have plenty of indoor options, as well as some fun winter activities to do outside. However, if you're anything like me, you instantly forget all of these great options as soon as someone says "what should we do?"
No worries though! I compacted some of our favorite things to do in colder weather (along with a few weekend getaways and day trips all in Iowa), so there's no drawing a blank this winter.
1.) Grand Harbor Resort (Dubuque, IA). Indoor water park ✔ Comfortable rooms ✔ A weekend full of great memories ✔ Plus, it's located in Dubuque, where there's plenty of restaurants and fun to be had.
2.) Snow shoeing/cross country skiing. Jester Park now how snow shoe rentals in the winter months. If you've got your own set of snow shoes or cross country shoes, Ledges State Park (Boone, Ia) or Pikes Peak State Park (McGregor, Ia) offers some great trails to explore in the winter months.
3.) Honey Creek Resort (Moravia, Ia). Rathbun Lake features plenty of outdoor winter activities or you can simply spend all of your time at the indoor water park. It's an easy drive from Des Moines and makes a fun weekend getaway.
4.) Des Moines Children's Museum (Upper level in Valley West Mall, West Des Moines, Ia). While it's only a temporary location, the DSM Children's Museum offers a great space for kids to play, pretend, and imagine their way through the day.
5.) Science Center of Iowa (Des Moines, Ia). The Brick by Brick exhibit is enough to keep kids busy for hours, plus catch one of their many experiments throughout the day.
6.) State Historical Building (Des Moines, Ia). So many great exhibits to teach kids about Iowa (and adults might learn a thing or two as well).
7.) Iowa State Capitol Building tour (Des Moines, Ia). You can do a guided tour or tour the capitol building yourself. Either way, you'll be amazed by this building. Great for kids too (although I do recommend 3+ years). [read about our visit here]
8.) Wells Fargo Museum (Des Moines, Ia). Being able to sit in the classic red stagecoach is enough to excite everyone in the family.
9.) Walk (or run) through the skywalks (downtown Des Moines, Ia). It's an indoor maze (especially if you let the kids lead the way) that helps to get rid of the pent up energy in the middle of the snowy, cold winter.
10.) Urbandale indoor swimming pool (Urbandale, Ia). Kids will be thrilled to go swimming in the middle of winter.
11.) GlowGolf (Jordan Creek Town Center, West Des Moines, Ia). 18 holes and/or a lazer maze. There's plenty to keep everyone busy for quite awhile.
12.) Climb Iowa (Grimes, Ia). Get ready for your summer adventure with a safe (and warm) indoor climbing experience.
13.) Sky Zone (Grimes, Ia) or Get Air (Urbandale, Ia). Bounce, bounce, bounce at these trampoline parks that are so close to home.
14.) Ice skating (Des Moines, Ia). Brenton Skating Plaza offers a great outdoor skating experience or Metro Ice Sports Facility (Urbandale, Ia) offers a great indoor option (limited open skate hours).
15.) Sledding. Huge hills or small hills, sledding is so much fun. Personally, we head to Waveland Golf course when we get a good snowfall.
16.) Mississippi River Museum and Aquarium (Dubuque, Ia). While you're staying at Grand Habor Resort, bop on next door to this awesome Museum. Full of hands on exhibits and history.
17.) Greater Des Moines Botanical Garden (Des Moines, Ia). Always a balmy atmosphere, even on a cold winter day it can feel like summer. Our favorite time to go is Sunday's during the winter, where there's blues music being played. Dancing, drinks, food, and flowers in perfect temperatures.
18.) A day at Merle Hay Mall (Des Moines, Ia). MHM is so much more than shopping, although with a Target attached to the mall it's pretty hard not to go shopping). Spend some time hopping at Hop-A-Lot, grab lunch at the food court, which features all locally owned businesses (no chains here!), and catch a movie (and a beer) at Flix Brewhouse.
19.) Bowling. We've got great bowling alley options all around Des Moines. Pick a place, rent shoes, pick out your bowling balls, and play. It's our go-to winter time family activity on Sunday afternoons.
20.) Rollerskating. Take it back with wheels, disco lights, and bathroom stall doors that don't lock.
21.) Jester Park Nature Center (Granger, Ia). This newly opened nature center provides plenty of opportunities for learning and exploring both outdoors and indoors.
22.) The Hall (Valley Junction, West Des Moines, Ia). Go on a Friday evening or Saturday afternoon/evening for several food truck options. Grab a game on your way in (or bring your own, as we've done many times) to keep the kids busy. It's loud, games on the screens, and fun food and drink options to keep everyone happy.
23.) Beaverdale Confections (Des Moines, Ia). Of course you'll go for the chocolate, but you can also watch them make chocolate and caramels (if you go at the perfect times, they'll even let you sample them). Pick up some classic candies along with your chocolate-y goodies.
24.) Hot chocolate at Freedom Blend Coffee (Des Moines, Ia). The concept behind Freedom Blend is fantastic, but the coffee and hot chocolate is really good in a cozy atmosphere.
25.) Smash Park (West Des Moines, Ia). Great place for meeting friends (both big and small) and playing games.
26.) Family Museum (Bettendorf, Ia). This fantastic children's museum is an easy 2 1/2 hour drive from Des Moines and is sure to keep the kids busy for a full day of fun.
27.) Seven Oaks Recreation (Boone, Ia). Your place for skiing, snowboarding, and snow tubing this winter.
28.) Iowa Children's Museum (Coralville, Ia). Another children's museum right here in Iowa that will keep your kids entertained for a full day. There's plenty of variety of all ages, plus it's in the Coralville Mall, so you can enjoy lunch and shopping too.
29.) Get a cabin at Backbone State Park (Dundee, Ia). Backbone State Park has great hiking in the warmer seasons, but the parks also boasts 12 heated cabins. Enjoy a winter weekend at a gorgeous state park and curling up in a cabin.
30.) Go to an Iowa Wild Game (Wells Fargo Arena, Des Moines, Ia). A fun few hours of hockey, singing, and cheering. The whole family will love this one.
31.) Visit the Des Moines Art Center (Des Moines, Ia). I was a bit panicked the first time I went here with my kids because it's not hands on. However, kids generally enjoy looking at the pieces (if you're still nervous, strollers are allowed). There's also family events and classes to enjoy (sign up for classes ahead of time).
32.) Bauder's Pharmacy (Des Moines, Ia). Swing up a stool at this classic soda fountain shop. It might be winter, but ice cream and sodas can still be enjoyed.
33.) Union Pacific Railroad Museum (Council Bluffs, Ia). This is a must if you have any train lovers in the house.
34.) Visit your local libraries. Libraries have so much to offer: fun programming, events, books and movies to check out. Find all Des Moines Public Libraries events here. West Des Moines, Waukee, Grimes, Urbandale, Johnston, Altoona, and other surrounding communities all have great programming events for kids of all ages.
35.) Community centers. Pioneer Columbus Community Recreation Center has Imagination Playschool toys, Valley Community Center has a playground, and Grimes Community Complex has a gym, toys, climbing toys, and more.
36.) Backyard Adventures (Urbandale, Ia) and Rainbow of Iowa (Grimes, Ia). Both feature openplay times during the week days (and open for birthday parties on the weekends). Great places for kids to practice their gross motor skills during the winter months.
37.) Blank Park Zoo (Des Moines, Ia). Going to the BPZ in the winter doesn't have to be a miserable experience. There's now plenty of indoor features (although there is some walking outdoors required) to enjoy the animals indoors. Better yet, book a behind-the-scenes tour of the new giraffe barn for an unforgettable experience.
38.) Glazed Expressions (Clive, Ia). Paint pottery, make a candle, or take a canvas painting class (most are for all ages).
39.) Open Gymnastics at Sapphire Gymnastics (Urbandale, Ia or Des Moines, Ia). Jump, tumble, and flip until you're (or your children) are worn out.
40.) Ballroom Dancing (Des Moines Ballroom, Des Moines, Ia). There's an open family dance night each week or you can sign up for weekly classes for all ages.
41.) Barnes and Noble (West Des Moines, Ia). Pick out new books, look at books, or participate in one of their numerous events. Be sure to check out their events section to get the full calendar.
42.) Mahaol's Coffee and Mini Donuts (West Des Moines, Ia). This can be such a fun and bright breakfast spot for a special morning.
43.) Iowa Hall of Pride (Des Moines, Ia). An interactive museum that gives kids and adults a chance to learn about those who have excelled in sport, on the stage, and as great ambassadors of their communities.
44.) James H. Andrew Railroad Museum (Boone, Ia). Another great place for train fanatics!
45.) Iowa Gold Star Military Museum (Camp Dodge, Johnston, Ia). Honor Iowa's veterans with a walk through exhibits that depict Iowa's military experiences.
46.) World Food Prize Hall of Laureates (Des Moines, Ia). Walk through the historic building to see exhibits that showcase how agriculture has helped in the fight against world hunger. * There are some very powerful exhibits here, so be prepared to speak to your children about what they are seeing.
47.) Iowa Aviation Museum (Greenfield, Ia). This museum honors Iowans who have contributed to the growth of aviation. Plus, what kids don't like to look at airplanes??
48.) Surf Ballroom and Museum (Clear Lake, Ia). Great for music lovers, where you can jump back in time by simply entering the ballroom.
49.) Old School Pinball and Arcade (Grimes, Ia). So many classic arcade games to play! Give your kids a hands on experince of "the good ole' days of the 80's).
50.) Jester Park Sleigh Ride (Granger, Ia). Not just for the holiday season, but whenever there's at least 6 inches of snow on the ground. Make it a special time with blankets and hot chocolate.
